Monday, July 07, 2008

Love, purpose and fame,

How much of participation is driven by attention-seeking rather than a genuine desire to co-create?

It's a question that framed itself during a conversation with Ivan Pope. I wondered if the desire to participate is a natural human state - and one that gets driven out of us by mass broadcast models (ie sitting back and consuming becomes normalised behaviour in a mass media world)?

I cited the example of my 3-year-old, who could not understand why she could not join in with the nativity play she went to watch last Christmas.

How much of that was driven by her desire to seek attention compared to her desire to join in?
Ivan's point (and this is my interpretation so, Ivan, please do expand in the comments if required...) is that attention = love. The more love we receive the happier we are - a powerful motivator.

So was my daughter seeking more love, or seeking to share in an experience and help form it?

Of course, we don't have to answer either/or.

The learning for those of us who wish to create better ways for humans to connect is to understand that our communities of purpose are not only coming together to get things done, they are coming together to be loved.

In user-generated-content-powered broadcast models, such as Youtube, and our own Ditto.net, less people acquire more of the love. How could we share that out?

Even in Total Communities (where to take part you have to create part, eg facebook, twitter, secondlife) the love concentrates where the attention focuses.

Jemima Kiss, at the Guardian, mused on twitter that she now had 2000 followers and that she would therefore try harder to say something useful or interesting.

When the attention becomes too great, when the conversation becomes little more than augmented broadcast, there is a natural tendancy for us to start making considerations like this. A little part of ourselves is hidden away in favour of the version required for the lower common denominator. (Not a dig at Jemima, I hasten to add, her tweet was just an inspirational, right now, example)

The more famous you are the less you can really be yourself?

Perhaps synchronous attention is a core part of what makes us human - the ability to create real time bonding experiences with fellow humans? The social act of being?

4 comments:

  1. It's a complicated business because we are talking about human relationships - albeit online. I think the OS term 'egoboo' sums it up well. People are looking for recognition, from which thay can gain some advantage. However, egoboo only comes from the right relationships and the right type of participation. So there's a huge amount of trial and error involved, as people look to find the social contracts which suit them.

    James Cherkoff

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  2. Well done as usual. Tangentially, I think you're pointing at a really interesting panel at sxsw that still reverberates with me. It was called "Discovery is the new cocaine."

    Led by two folks from MIT, they posited that the feeling of discovering and being discovered triggered the same pleasure centers of the brain as drugs, sex, or gambling. I covered as much as I could on the blog http://www.newmediabuzz.com/the_new_media_buzz_brough/2008/03/sxsw-live-welco.html

    Thanks again for the thought provocation!

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  3. Hi Micheal,

    I coincidentally bumped into your comment as I was googling for DINC (talk about self attention). :P Thanks for the kind words, the talk we gave at SXSW was just the start, we have actually expanded the discovery section greatly, you can see it here:

    http://www.slideshare.net/mingyeow/discovery-is-the-new-cocaine-going-beyond-engagement

    Hi David, thanks for the great points. There are several deep points in what you are saying.

    My belief is that the lopsided attention structures that exist today do little to build or enhance mutually reciprocal relationships.

    Some people dig any form of attention cause they lack it. Some people, like Jemima, with lots of attention, carve respect and compliments.

    In anycase, would love to catch up one day - my email is mingyeow@gmail.com. :)

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  4. Thanks Ming... a beautiful illustration of sharing the love more equitably yourself! Will drop you a line.

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